One thing I’ve started doing again is “trigger sheets” that my therapist had developed and given to her clients. The gist of the sheets is to look at your behaviors as triggered by the behavior of another person. No where do triggers reside more strongly than in interpersonal relationships. As repetition compulsion rears its head,… Continue reading This Shit is Hard
My ex wrote a list at the end of our marriage, a list of conditions for staying married to him. In order to stay married to him, I had to comply with “100 percent” of the list. When I told him I would, he contemptuously told me that wasn’t good enough. As I’m in a creative… Continue reading The List
There is a psychological term called “perspecticide” It’s defined as “the abuse-related incapacity to know what you know.” If you grew up in a home filled with shame and abuse, criticism and judgment, your perspective is going to be something you have to work hard to shape and find. Most of my healing work has… Continue reading From Betrayed to Bitch
What the hell is a “Psycholobitch”?, you might ask. Our mission is about becoming strong and not letting our experiences define us as victims. We have been through some major shit in our lives, shit that left us breathless, totally fucked, and saying, “what the hell???” through our tears and pain. It is a play… Continue reading Huh? Why Psycholobitch?
I’m inspired by my colleague’s description of breaking up on fuck it mountain. Having spent quite a bit of time on that mountain, I’m somewhere in between the last 2 stages. Being familiar with other models demonstrating stages of grief, this is my favorite. Fuck It Mountain offers a metaphor for the healing process and frankly I think it is… Continue reading Life After A Fucktard
Fucktards. We all know them, have encountered them, have worked with them. Call them assholes, dickless, lame…they are all fucktards at heart. Meaning, their emotional intelligence and care about others is severely retarded and irreversibly impaired, leaving others seriously fucked in dealing with their messes. Fucktards. They are basically big toddlers with their thumbs in… Continue reading Breaking Up on Fuck It Mountain