It’s 2017. Women continue to face the paradoxes of gender oppression. We can be CEO of a company on one continent and victims of genital mutilation on another. We’ve come a long way baby yet I sit and listen to a woman who just gave birth talk about not having custody of her other children… Continue reading WHY MUST A MAN BRING ME COFFEE?
The threads of our lives really are like webs. When one is traumatized in childhood, one does not gather memories along those threads to weave into your life. One gathers terrors, and fears, and triggers. One gathers sense impressions that are indelibly marked into your biology and that you must work to extricate, to bring… Continue reading Size Does Matter
Fudge, fudge Call the judge Daddy is divorcing mommy wrap her up in motions filed send her to the garbage pile one-she won’t matter to you or anyone else twins-I’ll take away everything she ever had triplets- I’ll provoke her, ignore her, come out smelling like a rose fudge, fudge, call the judge Daddy is… Continue reading Fudge Fudge Call the Judge
He still gets to me. Just seeing him evokes all the well-placed anger, the displaced anger, the hurt and harm, the utter hatred I am capable of. I hate him, like I hate my father. And I hate myself for hating anyone, for hating at all. I can psychologize and rationalize my way to empathy,… Continue reading He Still Gets to Me
Lately there’s been an email exchange between me and my ex. There was an issue with our communication and the kids and he said he didn’t want to go back to court because it was expensive. Now, this issue, on the surface, looks like I am the aggressor and he is the victim. It’s… Continue reading A snake is a snake
Gaslighting is no joke, and whenever a narcissist or his family offer something “nice” I have to repeat mantras and go back through the lists I’ve kept of reality. Yes, I have to remind myself about the data of events that happened so I don’t get lost in my own hopes and fantasies that an… Continue reading Reminders
This week, a young man I know, a beautiful, talented, upright and compassionate young man, took his own life. He was set to attend college in the fall. The grief and sadness in our community is overwhelming. I have always thought the worst possible thing that could happen to someone is that they lose a… Continue reading Losing our young people